Danielle is one tough lady. She has gone through a lot and overcome many obstacles and struggles in her adult life. She is a true inspiration to single moms who are working full time, running a household and trying to find time to take care of themselves. You will find her story very powerful!
Meet Danielle Mezzonotte:
Growing up, athletics was huge in our house. I played a sport all three seasons and it was instilled in my head that once you start something you don’t quit. You give it 110% ! I felt so much pressure growing up with a father who was an All American lacrosse player. I would spend hours practicing. Whether it was kicking a soccer ball, swimming laps or throwing a lacrosse ball at a wall, all I wanted was to make him proud.
My mom carted us to every event, every practice and anywhere we wanted to go. I would always be looking in the stands for my dad. Most times he was there, and a lot of times he was not, because he was coaching his own teams. Once high school was over, I was burnt out. I spent a few years swimming but I hung up my stick and put my ball away. It was time to be me. I was always in shape, never super skinny, always short and stocky. I was an athlete, this didn’t bother me until I got involved with a man who lead me into a deep dark world.
I felt brain washed by this man and no longer felt like myself. I no longer played sports, no longer cared about who I was. I would stay up all hours of the night and started to look like a skeleton. I was fragile, pale and lacked motivation. Almost like my life was being sucked out of my living body.
The day I became pregnant with my son, Christian, was the day God gave me back my life and blessed me with a second chance. After giving birth, my life started a new direction. Becoming a mother really opened my eyes, you see the man I was with at the time physically and verbally abused me. I wanted more for my son and I. So, I packed up and we started over.
I moved on and met a new love, who I felt at the time saved Christian and I. We started a new life together and became a family of four. Yes, I was pregnant with my second blessing Anthony. Things felt like they were happening so fast. My life was like a whirlwind, and my body changed into a body I no longer recognized. I gained 65 pounds with my first child and 60 pounds with my second. After giving birth to Anthony, I found myself miserable, frustrated and depressed with my now 200 pound body. My relationship suffered too… I was yet again in a dark place and now a single mother. My heart was broken.
I will never forget the advice of a client of mine, they said; “It’s time you do you! So what, maybe he left you for a skinnier girl…let this anger fuel you to go out and do something big!” So that’s what I did. I signed up at a local gym and a few months later, I ran my first mud run. It was awesome and awful at the same time. I was so sick of being fat and out of shape, and felt it was time to step up my game, so I reached out to a friend of mine on facebook, who told me about a CrossFit box that was about to open. I spent a week deciding if I was going to go to their grand opening. I literally made myself sick but I went anyways and totally fell in love.
CrossFit was just what I needed. I started going three days a week. I saw drastic changes in only a month. I couldn’t get enough. I started in February 2013 and by April I had competed in my first CrossFit competition. I was down 20 pounds. I found my athletic self again and I was happy.
I still have lots of extra tummy skin and unless I have surgery, it’s not going anywhere. There have been times I look in the mirror and I feel down, but then I remember that I’m a 34 year old single mother who works full time and I am extremely successful. I embrace the life I have now and I’m very proud of how far I have come from the life I once lived.
I now workout five times a week and I bring my boys with me. My oldest son’s father passed away last year and it help us all to be in a community surround by positive, encouraging people. They are like family to us, and my oldest son had some strong male role models. All of this in addition to the fact that I’m getting stronger, sexier and more beautiful everyday. My confidence is so much better and I’m a better mom because of this.
I came across a quote once that has stuck in my head, “Failure is not an option, believe in yourself.” I think of this quote often, especially when I’m having an off day. My body may not be perfect and it never will be, but I’m proud of it! I have worked hard to achieve so many goals and I can’t wait to see what’s next.
For all the single moms out there, you can get up and go after anything you want. If I can do it, so can you. Look in the mirror and embrace your body and love it. Be proud of who you are. Make some goals and focus on them. Dream that you can accomplish anything you want, and don’t let anything or anybody get in your way! Steer clear of negative self doubt and clear your mind of negative thoughts. After all, you are the director of your final outcome. What will your story be, how will your story end?