Boom! Keith Jackson lays it down!! There are so many nuggets of truth and pearls of wisdom in the answers below… this is by far THE BEST perspective I have ever heard from a man (or a woman for that matter) when it comes to good quality advice and honesty about the opposite sex. Thank you Keith!!
1.) What do you find most attractive in the opposite sex?
I don’t care how skinny or curvaceous you are, how big or small your boobs are or how tight/loose you midsection is, the amount of confidence you have is going to make or break the deal. Before I continue, lets also remember not to go overboard either. Cockiness is right around the corner and can also be just as much of a game changer. No doubt that guys suffer from this same dilemma, but this is all about the ladies right now. (That wasn’t a cue to start “poppin’ bottles”, Jason Wagner…) Shoulders back, chin up! It’s ok to take time to get yourself ready for the day but, once you’re out, it’s game on. You picked that outfit, rock it. Spend more time getting to know other people and less on worrying about your flaws.
2.) Do you notice cellulite, muffin tops, stretch marks, and saggy skin? If so, what is your honest opinion about those things?
Of course. Guys notice all of that stuff…. but it also means we’re looking! Let me address muffin tops really quick. Most of the time that problem can be handled with a slight change in outfit. I still have no clue why women focus so heavily on the size of the clothing that they are wearing. Not once, in my whole life, have I ever hit one of my buddies and said, “Yo, see that girl over there with the tight booty? Go see what the tag says on her skirt” WE DON’T CARE. How can you have a size “0” anyway? Wear what fits you and chances are you’ll be more likely to pull off my point in question #1.
Now on to stretch marks, scars and saggy skin. As I’ve grown and changed the way that I look at myself over time, I’ve also changed the way that I look at others. I appreciate the experiences that people have had and am more understanding when those experiences “leave their mark”. From childbirth to illness or injury, we all have things that “shape” who we are. It’s up to each person to take that and make the most of it.
3.) What makes a woman sexy?
How a woman carries herself is what truly makes her sexy. Whether she is in sweats or a gown, the confidence that she has, and her attitude within, will show through and make or break her outward appearance.
4.) Do you have any words of wisdom to offer your daughter or future daughter about body image? What about your son?
It’s funny how I’m starting to notice subtle changes in the way that I think about women now that I am raising a little one. My daughter only just turned 7 and I’ve already gone through countless hypothetical scenarios of hurdles we will have to face together as she grows. Body image is undoubtedly going to be one of them. But, how do I talk to her about it? Or should I at all? I feel that the best I can do for her is to just be positive. My wife and I have been very involved in physical fitness our whole lives. It’s already evident that our kids have taken that torch and are ready to run with it. It’s not the things that we say to them that will have the greatest impact. It’s how we conduct ourselves day to day. Being confident with my own image will most likely influence my daughter the most.
5.) What are some of the things that women fret about that drive you nuts?
It’s not one particular thing that a woman frets about that drives me nuts, it’s the ability to discuss it thoroughly one day and then to bring it up again the following day as if nothing was accomplished in the day prior…
6.) What makes a woman perfect in your eyes?
A “perfect” woman is one that is…..wait, I don’t think I’m going to fall for this one. In all honesty, a perfect woman to me would not be “perfect”. There is something about someone’s flaws that make them unique and interesting.
7.) What, if anything, intimidates you about women?
The “independent woman” attitude is what I would find not so much intimidating but annoying. We get it. You don’t “need” a man and you’re going to do EVERYTHING you can to prove it. I know women have gone through a tremendous amount of disrespect and inequality through the years but I belong to a new generation of men who have been raised to respect and admire women. If I’m doing something FOR a woman, it’s because I’m trying to be nice and not because I don’t think they can do it on their own.
8.) What advice would you offer a woman who constantly complains about her body?
Constant complaining only puts more emphasis on your problems and may cause people to notice those flaws in a time when you don’t want them to. It temporarily generates support and empathy from others but will quickly turn into the reason that people distance themselves from you.
9.) Any thoughts about the pressure the media places on women to look a certain way?
Most media is a business or indirectly related to a business. They create images that will sell. If they don’t sell, they have to change their image. Women need to take more control of this situation and force the media to change for them and not the other way around. I think we’ve improved a lot in this area as a society. I’ve seen a lot more businesses that advertise to different body shapes and it seems like people are speaking up.
10.) What is your favorite girl WOD (A benchmark Workout Of the Day named after a girl) and what is your favorite healthy meal?
While I can’t say it’s my favorite girl WOD, “Barbara” is the one that stands out the most.
Five rounds, each for time of:
Rest three minutes between each round.
This workout has left me curled in a ball on the floor every time I’ve done it. I think it’s just the formula of movements in that order that doesn’t sit well with my body.
I’m going to politely walk away from the “favorite healthy meal” portion of this question. Dieting is not my strong suit and I tend to lean more towards “tastes good” than “good for me”. Hopefully I will be able to change that in the near future.