Wrapping up this series of Inside The Minds of Men today with Dave, Rich and Joe. Three guys offering a different perspective to the questions about their thoughts on women and women body issues. I personally thank each man who has volunteered to go where no other man would dare to go, answering questions about women in a public forum shows a lot of bravery. I myself have learned a lot and laughed a lot too.
1.) Rich, what do you find most attractive in the opposite sex?
I suppose there are many things that I find attractive in women. It ranges from the most overt type of behavior (bright smile and inexhaustible sense of humor) to the subtlest element (a scent that catches your nose as a woman passes by). Sometimes that latter can be inescapable if there is any sort of physical appeal.
2.) Joe, do you notice cellulite, muffin tops, stretch marks and saggy skin? If so, what’s your honest opinion about those things?
Of course I notice these things, but the question should be do they matter? The answer to that is NO! All of these things show that the struggle of life is real. If it is from having kids women should be proud! They gave the gift of life and that is an awesome thing!!!
3.) Dave, what makes a woman sexy?
Self-confidence! Love your body, embrace who you are, “flaws” and all. I have a friend on Instagram who is in pretty damn good shape but with all of her negative remarks about how “fat” she is (she isn’t), she’s become unattractive in my mind.
4.) Joe, do you have any words of wisdom you would offer your daughter about body image? What about your sons?
My words of wisdom to my daughter would be to be confident in yourself, the world is a rough place and the right attitude will always pay dividends. Take care of yourself early in life, eat right and workout. Have fun. Don’t take yourself too seriously. You can be anything you want to be. Don’t let people put you down, so they can put themselves up. Don’t date until you’re at least 30. 🙂 My advice for my son is pretty much the same as for my daughter, but maybe not the dating thing.
5.) Rich, what are some things women do that drive you nuts?
How often they are right. At least the women in my life have always used calculative means to an end. I tend to like that as well. It provides me with a balance as far as how I like to “plan” things or lack there of.
6.) Joe, what makes a woman perfect in your eyes?
A confident woman who can hold her own. Smart, funny, nice butt and legs. Perfect, in my eyes will be completely different then someone else’s eyes.
7.) Dave, what if anything intimidates you about women?
I’m in my mid-40s and have been married to my beautiful wife, Maryrose for almost 25 years, I feel like I’m past the stage where women intimidate me. Now, if Maryrose asks me to explain to our daughter how to use a tampon or a pad, that’s another story!
8.) Ok, guys, what advice would you give a woman who constantly complains about her body?
Dave: We all have our perceived flaws in our appearance, or a belief that there are things that we can’t do, sometimes all that is needed is a reminder that there are plenty of positive traits mixed in with those “negative” traits. *** I’d send her this blog and tell her to read all of the stores that women have shared from the Love Your Body Campaign.
Joe: Don’t be so hard on yourself. You are your own worst critic and the parts of your body you are complaining about are probably not as bad as you think. If they continue to complain about it, I would ask them what are they going to do to change it? Lastly, I would tell them to work towards changing it but don’t obsess over it. That will only consume you and there is so much more to life then worrying about stretch marks or what have you.
Rich: Shut up and do something about it. From what I notice, women obsess about being “fat” when they are not. When I hear this, I always try to think of what a person overweight must think when they hear it. People are with themselves 24/7, you’re going to find “issues” with yourself, but it’s up to you to find solutions to those problems.
9.) Dave and Rich, what are your thoughts about the pressure the media places on women to look a certain way?
Dave: I think that your entire Love Your Body campaign, and the stories that the women shared, is evidence that the pressure is real. Our hope is that our daughter will grow up to understand that the images of beauty she sees in the media aren’t the only forms of beauty and that she loves herself for who she is.
Rich: Only thoughts are…its pretty pathetic and becoming painfully routine. You need not look any further than your local newscast, pre-game shows, sideline reporters. It’s crazy there is an expectation that there needs to be a “hottie” filling these seats and of course, they have to meet network standards, as well as the audience. God forbid, it’s someone who just knows her sh!t and does a damn good job, just the tip of the iceberg. This is probably a question that could be discussed and dissected on so many levels.
10.) Rich, what is your favorite girl WOD?
11.) Joe, what’s your favorite healthy meal?
Grilled chicken and vegetable kabobs with a side of avocado