Body positive, self-care, self-love, embrace, body acceptance, take up space…These are the buzz words that have been going around the positive body, love your body, self awareness movement for some time now. They are beautiful words, but what does it really mean to be “body positive?” To “Embrace”your body (flaws and all), what exactly is “self -love?’
The answers may be different depending on who you talk to. We could look up the definition of the Body Positive Movement and here is what we would get- a feminist movement that encourages people to adopt more forgiving and affirming attitudes towards their bodies, with the goal of improving overall health and well-being.
That’s straightforward enough, however I see this body positive movement changing a bit. Or perhaps evolving… For example it’s becoming common to just accept our bodies and not think of them as flawed; as opposed to embracing or accepting our flaws. In other words, we probably look at our body as flawed in some way because that’s what society has told us over the years. If we don’t have the perfect shape or size, if we have rolls, stretch marks or cellulite, that we are somehow flawed. Well, those were ideas that were put into our head, so what if instead of looking at our bodies as “flawed” we embraced them just as they are?
I for one think that’s a brilliant idea! However, that is going to take some time. We have been shown images and heard messages from society for so long about what a “perfect body “should look like. We may have even grown up in a house where our family members or friends talked about how we should look a certain way, or hope to never look a certain way. So, while the thought of having a “flawless” body with whatever body we were given no matter how it looks is really awesome, it’s going to take time to change that mindset. The truth be told, it might not even be in our generation but we can certainly work on it now and work even harder to make sure the next generations see themselves as “flawless” when it comes to body image.
So with that, we or most of us have some work to do. It won’t happen over night, but with practice, patience, forgiveness, and awareness we can and will transform the way we think about our bodies. Now, this is where I want to insert “buyer beware.” For so long the beauty industry has made a killing off of our low self-esteem, which is really sad, but what I find even more sad is that there are plenty of women out there right now, supposedly supporting the “positive body movement” claiming that they want to change lives and help you to love, and embrace yourself as you are, but they too are looking to also make a profit. They claim they will work with you to help you improve your body. Sign up for a workshop, or buy their book or ebooks and they will help you overcome your insecurities about body image. Gag!!! Makes me want to say “Bitch please.” In my opinion these body positive, self-love workshops, or courses are no better than the person trying to sell cellulite cream or the latest fat-loss gimmicks. They are trying to make a profit off of your insecurities and really there is no need. Exception to the rule: you’re working with a licensed therapist or a health and wellness coach for deeper issues than hating your body. Or when hating your body has become more than being insecure about the way you look. If that’s you, I totally support you spending money to reach out for help.
Tips, advice, wisdom on self-love, self-care and being positive about your body should be free! We as women should be ready and willing to share our stories and open our hearts to help other women overcome the negative hatred we have had for so long when it comes to our body image. So with that being said, my next few blog post are going to be about ways you can work on improving your body image, your view of self-worth and hopefully by the last post you will at least have an idea of where to start when it comes to loving your body, nourishing yourself with good care and love and embracing the way you look as well as the way other people look.
It’s all free, with no strings attached. Why? Because it’s time we change the world and the way we view it, and how the world views us as women and human beings. Also, because I care, and I have a lot to share.