The title says it all. K-bye! Just kidding, lets dig in a little deeper here. It’s true, we don’t need to love everything about our body in order to have a more positive attitude about it. In fact, forcing ourselves to love and accept everything about our body is kind of like trying to be perfect. It’s not going to happen.
Yes, we can change our thoughts from being in such a negative place about our bodies. We can explore like we did last week and figure out where those negative thoughts stemmed from. We can even learn to accept our flawed body without ever really liking it’s flaws. Think about it, you probably have something or someone in your life that you have learned to accept even though you really don’t like or love this particular person or thing,you have even learned to get along, find the positive and accept this person and/or thing. Well it holds true for you body too. You can learn to appreciate all the many things your body and mind are capable of doing, while accepting that you are flawed in someway and that is completely okay!
By continuing to work on ourselves, bettering ourselves (by better, I don’t necessarily mean just your physical body), and cultivating healthy relationships with the world and those in it, we can change our thoughts about our bodies and the way we view ourselves and others. We can take the focus off of looks and our flawed self if we dig in and work on building meaningful relationships with other human beings and helping those in need. In other words, when we step outside ourselves and focus on healthier things we can take our mind off of self loathing and put our time and talents elsewhere.
We can do this in so many ways. Random acts of kindness, complimenting others and building others up. Getting involved in a cause that you are passionate about. By volunteering and motivating others to join you, you will build healthy relationships, surround yourself with like minded people, and once again take the focus off of what you look like and put the focus back onto what you are capable of doing. You can start small. Reach out and start up a conversation with someone you have been wanting to know. Pay the toll for the car behind you. Open a door for someone and give a kind smile. Volunteer at a soup kitchen, women’s shelter, or wherever you feel passionate. Small steps will eventually turn into great journeys that will end up showing you that your are so much more than a body with cellulite, abs, rolls, scars, muscles, big thighs, or what have you.
So, when you are focusing on living a life, building relationships, and making a difference in the world in some way, you will be able to come to the mirror and look at whatever it is you don’t like about your body, and while you may not love what you see, you just might find acceptance because you know you are so much more than a physical body; you are a life changing, inspiration to others who has so much more to offer than a “perfect body.”