We have covered a lot over the last several blog posts. To recap, we learned the following:
- Be aware of your environment. What do you read, who do you follow on social media, what conversations are you having with the people around you?
- Where did you hear you were ugly or flawed in someway? Discovering that it may have never been your voice telling you that you were unworthy.
- You don’t have to love everything about your body to like and appreciate the person you are. That would be like trying to be perfect.
- The power of choice.
So that brings me to the last step (for now), step 5: Accepting the here and now, who you are right now, what you are capable of doing right now. This will lead you to a better appreciation of yourself later down the road.
So many times I have met women who have no appreciation for where they are in life. The obstacles they have overcome, the weight they have shed, the victories they have won. They have never stopped to appreciate the woman they have become, or looked back to see the evolution of there beautiful life. No matter what they look like or how hard they have worked, it’s never good enough.
Have you ever looked back at a picture of yourself, and thought,”OMG I thought I was fat then,” when clearly you weren’t. It will make you pause and think, man I wish I would have appreciated it then. Well, there is still time. Time to appreciate where you are in life and what your body looks like right now, no matter the shape. There is still time to appreciate your capabilities, and look back at all of your accomplishments no matter how great or small.
Talk to a woman who is facing death and she will tell you, don’t wait to live your life. Don’t wait to appreciate all the beauty and possibilities out there. Live now, and enjoy every moment that life is giving you. Don’t wait for the “better body” or the right job, or the perfect time. Enjoy life now.
We are all wasting too much time wanting to look different or searching for a better life. It’s okay to seek to improve your life and have goals, and seek change, but enjoy the moment. Even when it’s tough. You might hate the way you look in the mirror right now, but guess what…you are alive, you have a purpose, a mission here on earth. You are more than a body, more than a shape. You are are human being with a mind, and a heart, and a soul. Embrace this life. Explore, seek, and take chances. Look to the future but appreciate the present moment.
Imagine someone taking a photo of you right now. Look at that photo through the eyes of your 90 year old self. What do you think you would say to the woman in the photo?
We don’t have time to waste on hating our bodies or our lives. It’s too precious to throw away this time on self-loathing and self-doubt. On the days your not feeling it, just think, this is today. Today I feel sad, or today I feel like I look like shit. Own that feeling, it’s okay to feel crappy on some days, but then take an imaginary snap shot and send it to your future old lady self. What do you think she would tell you?
Over my 39 years, I have seen my body change and fluctuate. I have had stressful and sad times, and I have had happy and fun times. I have failed at life many times and I know I will continue too and that’s okay, because that’s how I learn, those are the stories I can share when I’m old. There are times I look in the mirror and think WTF? Or put on some pants that are too tight. Or see the younger girl in her cute leggings and toned tight body, as I see my wrinkles starting to appear. I want to fight it. I want to get the botox and step up my gym game and be younger again. Then I think no, this is you. This is who I am today. Tomorrow, next week, next year may be different. It may be better, or it might be worse but I get to decide how I choose to live right now. I get to decide what works for me. I don’t have to live by someone else’s beauty standards. I don’t have to size myself up to other peoples idea of success. I can make my own rules. By doing so, I build confidence and empower myself. I no longer have to wait to be a certain jean size, or for the money that is going to make things better, or the relationships that will prove that I am loved. I am here right now, embracing the moment no matter the circumstance. It might be stressful, sad, challenging or it might be joyous and carefree, but this day is one that I won’t live again, so I will live it to it’s fullest.